“Childhood decides.”
~ Jean-Paul Sartre

It's OK to Go Up the Slide book coverWelcome to

Renegade Parenting

The parenting books that advise you to let kids
talk to strangers, punch each other and hog toys:

It’s OK to Go UP the Slide… Renegade Rules
for Raising Confident and Creative Kids

(Tarcher/ Penguin coming March 8, 2016)

It’s OK NOT to Share… and Other Renegade Rules
for Raising Competent and Compassionate Kids

(Tarcher/ Penguin 2012)

Named one of the Best Parenting Books of 2012 by Parents magazine reviewer. 

Put another way, it’s about learning limits, rough housing and taking turns. And more. Each set of Renegade Rules guides you through some of the most misunderstood aspects of early childhood.

Book illustration from It's OK Not to Share

Try these time-tested tools to help your child be assertive, prevent bullying, take risks, love literacy, cope with tough feelings and handle explosive energy.

Renegade Parenting give practical answers to everyday challenges and may turn everything you thought you knew about raising kids upside down.

Be prepared to change your mind.

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Advanced Praise for It's OK to Go Up the Slide...

"Can we clone Heather Shumaker? If so, let's get cracking. Anyone willing to stop and ask, "Wait - why do we have to sign our kids' homework?" is already on the right track. She stops to re-examine almost all conventional wisdom about childhood...and that makes her my hero."
~ Lenore Skenazy, founder of the book, blog and movement, Free Range Kids

"I'm in love with the book. It's going to rock some boats, challenge some thinking, and nudge some adults in the right direction."
~ Jeff A. Johnson, author of Let's Play

“This is the book I have been waiting for. Heather again has provided us with practical and respectful parenting advice for the child entering the big world of elementary school years. This book is tender and completely engaging.”
~ Daniel Hodgins, author Boys: Changing the Classroom, not the Child

"Sensible and provocative. This book will turn notions about kids, families and schools upside down. From homework to strangers to technology, Shumaker tackles all the big topics facing the preschool to elementary set."
~ Amy McCready, author of The "Me, Me, Me" Epidemic

Praise for It's OK Not to Share...

“Bold. Unconventional. And downright useful!”
~ Anthony T. DeBenedet, M.D., coauthor The Art of Roughhousing

“Renegade Rules will resonate with what you know to be true, speak to what you want most for your children and teach you how to achieve it. Don't let this one slip off your reading list.”
~ Dr. Becky Bailey, author of Conscious Discipline

“Provides immediate, sanity-saving answers to tough parenting questions.
I highly recommend it.” 
~ Michael Gurian, author of The Wonder of Boys and The Good Son

“An insightful, sensible and compassionate book full of downright revolutionary ideas.” 
~ Salon.com