“Childhood decides.”
~ Jean-Paul Sartre


Book illustration from It's OK Not to Share... to the only parenting book that advises you to let kids swear, punch each other and hog toys:

It’s OK NOT to Share… and Other Renegade Rules
for Raising Competent and Compassionate Kids
(Tarcher/ Penguin 2012)

Named one of the Best Parenting Books of 2012 by Parents magazine reviewer. 

Put another way, it’s about learning limits, rough housing and taking turns. And more. 29 Renegade Rules guide you through some of the most misunderstood aspects of early childhood.

Book illustration from It's OK Not to ShareTry these time-tested tools to help your child be assertive, prevent bullying, take risks, love literacy, cope with tough feelings and handle explosive energy.

Backed up by solid child development science, these “renegade rules” give practical answers to everyday challenges and may just turn everything you thought you knew about raising kids upside down.

Be prepared to change your mind.

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Praise for It's OK Not to Share...

“Bold. Unconventional. And downright useful!”
~ Anthony T. DeBenedet, M.D., coauthor The Art of Roughhousing

“Renegade Rules will resonate with what you know to be true, speak to what you want most for your children and teach you how to achieve it. Don't let this one slip off your reading list.”
~ Dr. Becky Bailey, author of Conscious Discipline

“Provides immediate, sanity-saving answers to tough parenting questions.
I highly recommend it.” 
~ Michael Gurian, author of The Wonder of Boys and The Good Son

“An insightful, sensible and compassionate book full of downright revolutionary ideas.” 
~ Salon.com