Monthly Archives: February 2014

Lessons from a Pirate Ship Cake

My kindergartener loves pirates, so we concocted a pirate cake for his birthday party. I love the process of turning a child’s wish into reality. The ship was three-tiered, complete with poop deck, bowsprit, topsails, gun ports and a chocolate … Continue reading

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9 Responses to Lessons from a Pirate Ship Cake

  1. deidra says:

    WOW is all I can say!

  2. What a great mom! I would’ve killed for a birthday cake like that when I was 8 yrs old.

    My weakness is hanging on to financial documents way past when I need to. Not sure why, I just do, but am mentally working up to the day I start shredding the oldest of them.

    I have no trouble eating any culinary masterpiece either I’ve created (rare) or have eaten in a finer restaurant (a bit less rare, but we don’t eat out at fancy places very often).


    • Heather Shumaker says:

      Isn’t it funny what we hang on to? Good luck when your shedding day comes.

  3. Erika Cedillo says:

    I loved your post!! Thanks for the reminder of focusing on to the process, the memories, the experiences and relationships… and to let go.
    I hang on to every single craft my children do as if I would like to document every stage and how their abilities evolve. What I’ve came up to is to create a digital file so I take a picture of everything and now I have a big digital photo album that only takes virtual space but that I can go back to and see their crafts. Then I just choose the very special ones and I restrict myself to just 3 (well maybe 4-5) for every 6 months or so and then let go the rest because all are in photos.

  4. M Brown says:

    Thank you for this story. It’s a good reminder to me to be present moment-to-moment. Also, you remind me of a Dan Hodgins quote: “Always be yourself. Unless you can be a pirate. Then, always be a pirate.”

  5. jannette says:

    where did you get the pattern?

The Emotions of Help

I trained both my kids to pack their own lunch boxes before the start of school. The other day I finished my morning routine early and casually asked my 8-year-old if he wanted help. “Help?!” he retorted, scorn in his … Continue reading

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  1. I admire that you assign tasks by child, temperament, and capability.

    • Heather Shumaker says:

      Thanks, Laurie. I remember your parents also tailored tasks to fit each child. Personalities do come different!