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Climbing UP the Slide

If you’ve ever been on a U.S. playground, you know one of the biggest controversies is this: should kids be allowed to go up the slide? The fact the question exists at all shows there’s a split between what’s good … Continue reading

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9 Responses to Climbing UP the Slide

  1. Erika Cedillo says:

    I’ve think of this issue many times. Mainly when my oldest was very little (she’s now 5) and I kind of “learned” that you should teach them to go on their bump. But in the back of my mind I would also think that going up is also fun, but I held myself from encouraging her to do it. Until she was older and more stable (3years), I realized that at her daycare they had a slide where they were allowed and kind of encouraged to climb up and that was an aha! moment for me. It was just a matter of waiting for her to be older and stronger to practice that skill. Now with my second that is 17 months, we are in the process of teaching her to go down on her bump only while her sister explores going up. I finally understood it’s a matter of safety and development. As for the harsh look of other parents, I think the only issue is you make sure your children don’t take over the slide and allow others to have a chance, and to teach them of being mindful of younger children. Going up or down, I think it’s a matter of physical ability and they need to learn what they can do! Don’t you remember how strong you felt when doing that? I like to see how proud she feels when she masters a new challenge, a new structure.

  2. My little babe just started going down slides (at 17 months) and she already tries to climb up them also! It must be some rite of childhood!

  3. Christy Qualin says:

    If other kids aren’t gonna slide down when my toddler is trying to climb up, I’m okay with it. Have never encountered negative vibes or comments from other adults. My playground pet peeve tho is people who bring their dogs! It’s for kids, not dogs!

  4. Jan Waters says:

    All kids, I believe if left alone, want to go up the slide at some point. The only problem I see is that some want to go up while some are coming down. But then what a wonderful opportunity to problem solve a conflict!! Jan

    • Heather Shumaker says:

      Yes, very true – another chance for getting practice solving conflicts.

      Love your statement “All kids…if left alone…” We need to remember to leave them alone sometimes.

  5. David Parker says:

    Just make sure you don’t let our nanny government decide!

Playing Dead

It’s easy to idealize childhood. Sometimes we forget just how much young kids have to grapple with. Death, for instance. Even kids who have not been personally touched by death are trying to understand mortality. Think about it. A young … Continue reading

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  1. deidra says:

    I had to talk openly about death with my child at an early age. My mother died of cancer many years ago before he was born. He started to ask questions about her and I was very honest with him. I simply said, she was sick and the doctors couldn’t make her better and that she was in heaven now. Interestingly, a year later a friend of mine delivered prematurely and the baby lived about a month and then died. My son knew she had been pregnant. We didn’t see them a whole lot and I kept my fingers crossed he wouldn’t ask about the baby. Well, as luck would have it he did. Again, I told him the baby was very sick and the doctors couldn’t make him better. My sweet little boy said(he was 4 years old), “I think the baby is in heaven and your mom is taking care of him.”

    • Heather Shumaker says:

      Oh, that’s a sweet story. Thanks for sharing, Deidra. Glad you have been open to talking about death with your child. He will gain so much comfort and wisdom from your approach.

  2. As my babe is only 17 months, I don’t have experience with this yet. But since we live with a house full of animals (some old) and keep chickens, I know that she will encounter death with some of them while she is at a young age. I believe in telling the truth and not sugar coating things. Some people use phrases like “going over the rainbow bridge”, etc, and I think that is confusing. Death is a fact of life, so I think being open about it is important, even with a young child.

    • Heather Shumaker says:

      I haven’t heard the “rainbow bridge” one! Sounds as if your child will have lots of personal encounters with animal death. That can be so helpful. Glad you are approaching the topic as a simple part of the life cycle. I predict you’ll have many meaningful conversations ahead! Thanks for writing.

  3. Heather, Our now-adult son learned about death through the loss of pets, making the transition to the death of human beings that we knew a little easier to understand and cope with.

    • Heather Shumaker says:

      Yes, pets do help kids learn about loss, death and grief, don’t they? I believe you’re right – it makes the transition to losing humans more understandable.

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