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Mothers Aren’t for Hitting

If you know young children, you know about explosive anger. There’s lots to be frustrated about when you’re little, and this pent up emotional energy often breaks out physically. ┬áKids hit, kick, cry and yell. Hitting per se is not … Continue reading

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4 Responses to Mothers Aren’t for Hitting

  1. I hadn’t thought about the domestic abuse connection to allowing children to hit, but wow, does that make sense! And your alternative, to hit a pillow (or other inanimate object that can’t be hurt) is brilliant.

    I’ve always been an advocate of providing a punching bag for adults to beat up when they’re angry. Not a human punching bag of course, but one that boxers use. Or one of those inflatable plastic figures that are weighted on the bottom so you can knock them over and they bounce right back up, ready for another left hook.


    • Heather Shumaker says:

      Oh yes, I used to love those inflatable bounce-back punching toys. We had a clown. More often than not, its momentum would cause it to knock us down.

      Punching bags for all ages can be extremely helpful. Get it out. Get the emotion out on a safe target.

  2. Vicki says:

    Thank you. My usually delightful and sweet 3 year old son has started biting me and throwing himself at me. I already talk to him directly with “I won’t” sort of statements, but the biting and throwing himself keep shocking me into loud responses like “OW!” Thank you for the reminder to stay calm and direct, and especially for the important and easily-forgotten reminder that mothers are people too.

    • Heather Shumaker says:

      You’re welcome. Keep setting limits on what you do and don’t like for your body. “Mothers are people, too…mothers are people, too…”

      If your little guy is typical, you’ll see this kind of behavior of attempted attacks continue when he’s four, too. Get ready to be strong and consistent. Your sweet boy is still there, but there will be times he needs help controlling his emotions and physical energy.