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Who has Mentored You?

I was in California last week, the home state of Bev Bos, legendary early childhood advocate and mentor to thousands. She died the week before I spoke on Feb. 4, and it was fitting that I should be addressing a … Continue reading

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  1. My dad was a great mentor. He quietly persevered through whatever came his way, and showed me the value of play, sports, discipline, and practicing to get better.

    Another mentor is one of my two best friends, Dennis. The great lesson he taught me was life is too short to save all the fun and recreation until retirement. He’s had great balance between work and play in his life, and my life is richer because he taught me that by example.

    Chris

    • Heather Shumaker says:

      Chris, Thanks for sharing your mentors. Dennis’s example is something so rare these days – and yes, we need to see the living embodiment of it – balancing play and work. As my father says, “All work and no play make Jack a dull boy.”

  2. Jan Waters says:

    Thank you for recognizing and remembering Bev Bos. She was the best! Jan Waters

  3. Debbie Silver says:

    I was sad to read your post about Bev. I heard her speak many times and even had the pleasure of having dinner with her at an event! Every time I read (or reread) one of her books, I learned something new. Wouldn’t it be great if there was a compilation of all her wonderful and inspiring quotes, like the one you posted!!!

    • Heather Shumaker says:

      So glad you got to meet her, and isn’t it amazing how we are ready to hear certain messages only as time goes on? Good for you re-reading Bev’s wisdom – and I’m looking forward to seeing what quotes you collect!

  4. Patrick Donohue says:

    Bev Bos

    What a gift she was. We were blessed with the opportunity to participate in her preschool. We sent both our daughters there. Actually, after the first day, our eldest said she did not want to leave and requested that we move there and live with Bev in the preschool while holding onto Bev’s hand. Upon hearing this Bev picked her up and hugged her and quietly said something I don’t remember which made leaving OK.

    One did not just drop off kids there, as parents, all parents, were required to help run the school. Bev also require all parents to reularly participate in a parenting class one per month. There was a manditory contractual fine of $200.00 for failure to do so.

    Beyond the money, only an idiot would refuse. For she was a gifted orator and teacher who provided us with vital knowledge regarding raising and educating our kids.

    One thing she made us realize is that everything we do or say impacts our child’s life forever.
    So, it was important to be fully present in the moment with our children and to engage with empathy when interacting. Furthermore, we should eliminate the word “no” from our vocabulary. This proved easier said than done. The trick being to preemptively protect our kids from harm and harming thing by removing any dangers or precious objects from the home environment thus eliminating the need to say no or don’t.

    I could write a series of books about her value to us as parents.